Monday, November 27, 2006
People are judging themselves more than you
Dear Darren,
Remember a week or so ago, when I mentioned that being able to understand people is one of the biggest skills in life? Then later I explained how people hide their inner selves. So how are you supposed to understand them?
It’s all though hints. Some hints I can tell you. For example, they are mostly concerned about themselves. If you were in their shoes and their mind, you would discover that they were worried about how they look, how they’re doing, and what might happen to them later that day. They are not thinking very much about you or anyone else around them. If they look at you, they may think, “Oh, there’s Darren.” Or if they don’t know you, they may think, “Oh, there’s a big, blond, good-looking teenage guy.” But they wouldn’t bother criticizing all the little things you’re saying or doing. They notice your first impression, and then quickly go back to thinking about themselves. That’s why there is no point to being self-conscious. People just don’t care that much about you! Excpet those of us who know you. We care. But we aren’t judging you because to us, hey, you’re Darren! What more is there to say? We love ya.
Remember a week or so ago, when I mentioned that being able to understand people is one of the biggest skills in life? Then later I explained how people hide their inner selves. So how are you supposed to understand them?
It’s all though hints. Some hints I can tell you. For example, they are mostly concerned about themselves. If you were in their shoes and their mind, you would discover that they were worried about how they look, how they’re doing, and what might happen to them later that day. They are not thinking very much about you or anyone else around them. If they look at you, they may think, “Oh, there’s Darren.” Or if they don’t know you, they may think, “Oh, there’s a big, blond, good-looking teenage guy.” But they wouldn’t bother criticizing all the little things you’re saying or doing. They notice your first impression, and then quickly go back to thinking about themselves. That’s why there is no point to being self-conscious. People just don’t care that much about you! Excpet those of us who know you. We care. But we aren’t judging you because to us, hey, you’re Darren! What more is there to say? We love ya.
